It’s My Wedding - Shut Up Mother!!

Posted by SWS at Saturday, June 21. 2008
Categories: My Two Cents
What is it with Mothers when it comes to your wedding, why does an otherwise ‘normal’ mother suddenly turn into a complete nut case the moment you announce that you are getting married?

If you are a Mother, and one of your offspring is getting married, remember that your role is to be the "SASE".

 wedding bride with her mother
SASE you are asking, what does that mean? Well, I will start with a few things it doesn’t mean.

  1. We don’t mean that you have to parachute into the dress shop via the plate glass window before ripping to shreds your Daughters chosen dress with you teeth before proudly announcing that you have saved the day and found her the perfect dress from another gown shop.
  2. We also don’t mean that you have to use a time-delay explosive to blow up the Rolls Royce chosen to deliver the bride to the church before once again saving the day with Uncle Bobs Cadillac which, you proclaim, looks lovely with a wash and a pink ribbon tied to the antenna.
  3. Obtaining the guest list by hacking your daughters PC then send anonymous threats informing all the friends and family from the ‘other side’ to make a reason for not attending so that you can invite Aunty Bee (and her bingo friends), who last saw your daughter when she was 3 months old, in their place, is also a big no-no.

SASE simply means a) Support, b) Advise (when asked), c) Smile, d) Enjoy

If you do that your daughter is much more likely to be open with her plans and get you involved - this way you will both enjoy the experience.

Employ any of the tactics above, or generally interfere and try to impose your will and the end result will be your daughter shutting you out bit by bit - you will end up less involved and at logger heads - your relationship may never fully recover.

For the record, my Mother was great and nothing like the above (just in case you are reading mama…)

 

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  • Sunday, June 22. 2008 Patricia wrote:
    Thank you great editorial comments and a good way to look at the parents roll. I will take it under advisement!
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  • Wednesday, June 25. 2008 Dad wrote:
    The dad always gets the shaft. We can be a pain in the butt as well! Actually whatever my daughter wants I will try to do for her. My wife on the other hand can talk to the empty wallet!
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  • Tuesday, July 15. 2008 Santa Rosa Groom wrote:
    Aint it the truth, my fiancees mother does not stop, I think she is trying to relive her fist wedding again....
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  • Monday, October 20. 2008 The Mom! wrote:
    I am on my fourth daughter’s wedding and I always help as best I can without crossing the line, it is really easy to try to turn the wedding into a social affair for our friends (parents friends) and it should be about my daughter and then it the budget and if space allows my friends. My two cents, be there when they need help otherwise observe and enjoy as much as possible!
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  • Wednesday, June 17. 2009 the unknown bride wrote:
    my mother in law was horrible. please mom-in-laws-to-be -- let us brides do our own thing. it's already stressful enough without having to listen to all your advice - eventhough you mean well. just give me the cash!
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